In my message; RELATIONSHIPS: Becoming the “Right” Person, I challenged the singles in the LifeSpring Community to become the “Right” Person, as they’re searching for the '”Right” Person" (for those married or in a committed relationship I challenged them to become the "Right" person their spouse or loved one deserves).
I asked everyone to be “intentional”, not leaving this to chance, and do everything in their power to become the person who the person they’re looking for is looking for.
I’ve had many conversations with couples prior to their marriage (during their pre-marital counseling sessions), as well as numerous conversations with couples whose marriages are struggling.
One thing I have found in married couples or couples in a committed relationship trying to overcome struggles between the man and woman is very rarely did they have “Chemistry” or “Passion” problems.
What they almost always had was “RELATIONSHIP” problems.
In many cases I was dealing not with a marriage with marriage problems, but with two single people problems combined.
They had spent so much time on their “Chemistry” or “Passion” earlier in their time together, that they forgot to work on developing a good “RELATIONSHIP” with one another.
BTW, here are my telltale signs of individuals spending too much time on “Chemistry” or “Passion” when dating or in marriage:
(1) Compromising who I am and what I believe, (2) Accelerating the process of a good relationship, or (3) Being Fake, in order to physically please the other person or to be pleased myself.
Here’s the deal: God created RELATIONSHIP.
God created us for RELATIONSHIPS (Relationship with God, Relationship between male and female, Relationship with humanity).
I would say that we were DESIGNED for RELATIONSHIP.
So, with that said, how do we change? How can we be transformed from focusing on “Chemistry” or “Passion”, to becoming the person the person we are looking for, is looking for?
By understanding what LOVE is and how important it is in any relationship.
So the congregation and I agreed to read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a once a day for 7 days to better understand the key ingredient in becoming the “Right” person: LOVE.
By practicing each of these characteristics of LOVE, in every current relationship we are in now, we start actively becoming the person the person we are looking for, is looking for.
After you’ve read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, let me know;
- Which of these qualities is the most difficult for you to exhibit?
- Which quality do you value most in some you want to date, your spouse, or significant other?